Hearing the news that your partner is unexpectedly pregnant can bring a whirlwind of emotions—shock, fear, confusion, or even excitement. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, but how you respond in this moment is crucial.
Here are some steps you can take to support your partner and navigate this unexpected situation together.
1. Stay Calm and Listen
Your first reaction might be to panic, but staying calm and focusing on your partner is important. She’s likely feeling vulnerable and anxious about telling you, so take a deep breath and listen to what she has to say. It’s also important to show empathy and reassure her that you’re in this together.
2. Acknowledge Your Emotions
It’s okay to have strong feelings about the situation. Acknowledge your emotions—whether they’re fear, anger, confusion, or even happiness.
However, try to keep your emotions in check during your initial conversation so your partner doesn’t feel overwhelmed. It’s essential to be honest about your feelings but do so in a way that honors and respects how she’s feeling—and without making her feel pressured.
3. Communicate Openly
Open communication is critical during this time. Ask your partner how she’s feeling and what she’s thinking. It’s essential to understand her perspective and needs and approach the conversation with sensitivity.
This is a time for supportive dialogue, not judgment or pressure. You want your partner to feel safe to express herself without fear that you’ll judge her perspective.
4. Educate Yourself
Take the time to educate yourself about pregnancy and the options available—parenting, adoption, or abortion. Understanding what’s involved in each choice will help you both make informed decisions.
While you two may want to research and discuss these options together, it’s critical to remember that the decision about how to move forward is ultimately hers. However, having your support will enable her to move forward confidently and help strengthen your relationship.
5. Offer Emotional and Practical Support
Your partner will need both emotional and practical support right now. Offer to accompany her to medical appointments, help with research, or talk through options together. Show her that you’re committed to being there for her, no matter what decision she makes.
We’re Here for You Both
At Attleboro Women’s Health Center, we understand the uncertainty you and your partner are going through right now. But you’re not alone in this. We’re here for you both.
Contact us today to learn how we can help. We’re here to give you the information and support to make healthy decisions and feel confident in your future.